Victory! Firstly, trafficking women and children on Craigslist is as low as it gets. I am against it [trafficking] in all directions. But for me it is also a personal victory, even though Craigslist is not to blame, it is the seeking party that is ultimately the guilty one.
Today Craigslist replaced the Adult “Services” Section with “Censored” and a dead link [for now].
“The website has been under fire for allegations that it promotes prostitution.
Last week, attorneys general in 17 states banded together to urge Craigslist to discontinue its adult services.”
“The increasingly sharp public criticism of Craigslist’s Adult Services section reflects a growing recognition that ads for prostitution — including ads trafficking children — are rampant on it,” the attorneys general said in a Tuesday letter to Craigslist CEO Jim Buckmaster and Founder Craig Newmark.”
“The letter also highlighted a report in May by CNN’s Amber Lyon, who posted a fake ad for a girl’s services in the adult section. She received 15 calls soliciting sex in three hours.”
Read more: http://www.cnn.com/2010/CRIME/09/04/craigslist.censored/index.html?hpt=T1
So although the blame is on the bfs, husbands, or whomever is soliciting, Craigslist still has a responsibility to not allow promotion of prostitution, which is illegal in most states and cities in the US, on its websites.
I, for one, feel a little cheery about the decision given my personal experience with this. [Read more on that issue and what it’s like when Craigslist actually affects you in the real world: Craigslist Is For Whores & A Pregnancy: Great.] However, I find it disheartening and pathetic that the majority of the males posting comments are opposed to the “censorship”, regardless of their decision to ever use it. They tout yet another assault against their civil liberties, and some go even so far as to compare being a wife or girlfriend to being a prostitute. The reasoning is that a woman won’t “put out” if a man does not shower her with gifts, provide her with shelter, etc. Hence they are already paying for it and bitch even when she doesn’t “put out”. Are they serious? What a bunch of douchebags. They shouldn’t even be allowed to breed. Just go live on an island with beer, unlimited sports TV, and whatever carnal desires you wish, but no breeding for you lest you pass on your despicable funk to your offspring. Yes, I do believe in culling.
So in essence, I am a prostitute since I am a girlfriend? Okay let’s break this down, idiot. A. I don’t get gifts but once in a rare blue moon B. I provide the shelter C. I provide the food for the most part. And D. we are both willing to have sex, freely with one another. I don’t consider him a prostitute (although I must say when the CL issue came around and name-calling ensued, I did insult him by saying he was the whore, not me).
Anyway…a healthy sexual relationship (note I did not say a healthy relationship, in general) is one where both parties wish to have sex in whatever fashion they desire as long as they are not hurting one another and one does not feel pressured to do so. It is a healthy desire to share with one another any form whether it be sweet and slow with lots of I love Yous, or with his hands around your neck, up against the cold shower wall, coming your brains out and moaning until the neighbor calls the cops. Whatever is your fancy, as long as it is consensual.
But for some dregs of society who don’t wish to work out or take care of themselves or please their partner in any way, to expect her to want to have sex with him all of the time, and vice versa isn’t realistic. Although we are supposed to base our relationships on the personality of the person inside that body, sexual attraction is still sexual attraction. And it is up to the person doing the soliciting to do the right thing. A. They know it is illegal, and B. how can you respect yourself (and the other person) if you are paying a woman (or man) to be with you if they wouldn’t do so on their own time. You can argue about it all day. Sex is a basic need, I understand that. And I understand that many times it is all someone wants. They don’t have time fo the relationship or the other bullshit that comes along with it. Which many may argue that prostitution is consensual. Sometimes it is, and sometimes it isn’t. Even if it is, lower “rent” prostitutes, are usually not doing it because they love it. Would you? Really?
My point is, the only thing I DO expect out of a civilized society is that one seeks out whatever pleasures he or she wishes without hurting others. This includes loved ones who may be severely destroyed by the thought of their loved one going elsewhere–no matter how pissed off they are. The problem isn’t in the sexual act at all, it is when the issues are so self-destructive and vindictive one makes very poor choices. But, I digress, the article is about Craigslist and their role in promoting prostitution.
But I believe I have some insight that others rarely do since I have, in fact, spoken with parties who have placed these ads. Clearly not for my own “pleasure”, but understanding how their contact information was in my own bf’s phone/email inbox and actually what did transpire. Some were quite shocking, others were scams.
All in all, I still maintain it is up to the person in the relationship NOT to seek out services that are not approved by the other party within the relationship. It is essentially about trust, and of course what is legal in your state/city.
**I just let my bf know about the Craigslist issue and he said he was glad it was closed down because it “isn’t right.” That makes no sense, this is either someone who is full of shit since he did in fact try to use these services (although he still maintains he was looking for freebie hook-ups. Yeah, because so many women out there just want to f*ck for free and use CL to hook up. Or he is so BPD that he is ashamed and what? Afraid of temptation? God knows there are tons of sites out there. But he said no, because he is afraid of even going on CL now because he is afraid I will think the worst.***
So I proceeded to let him know that had he ever been busted even for being curious, or carrying through, he would have been a registered sex offender, a felon (although some are misdemeanors), no longer able to vote, have to possibly register where ever he lives (and even then he would have restrictions on where he is allowed to live). He could also possibly never have unsupervised visits with his children again, or until they were 18. There are also restrictions in some states on what you can even do on say, Halloween if you are a registered sex offender (but these are usually tier 2/3 offenders. So really, is it worth it?
The sad truth is, prostitution has been around for many, many, maaaany centuries. Either voluntarily or as sex slaves which were sold or traded. And honestly, I know it isn’t going anywhere. The secret is to be with someone who wouldn’t stoop that low. Even if a man/woman were single, I could not respect him (or her) if he/she paid for it. It’s my own personal belief.